#98, How Should We Honor Our Fallen Firefighters?
Bobbie Scopa
Last modified on August 27, 2024
Going to a fallen firefighter memorial ceremony is always an emotional event. There’s no way it can’t be. But what should a memorial look like? I recently attended the re-dedication of the Dude Fire Memorial not far from Payson Arizona. It made me think hard about memorial ceremonies I’d been to over my long career. Even though it was a re-dedication, there was never an original dedication. There had been no funerals with bagpipes. No procession of engines. No rows of firefighters standing in their dress uniforms. I have some strong opinions about the firefighter memorials that we have for our fallen brothers and sisters. Please listen in and let me know what you think.
I’m a private person, but realize others may not share my outlook about family, serious illness, and tradegy. I try to be patient when media intrude on grieving moments – usually I still feel inner outrage for their rude behavior. I would prefer memorials be kept modest and respectful. There are few things that disgust me as much as showboating and braggarts. Given everything when in the service for the good of all is a moral duty. I feel memorials to the fallen should be respectful, modest and reflect the character of those honored. (Hence my anger at how consistently “wrong” movies and TV depict people who fight fire, both structure and wildland.) JD
I am in agreement. If a family wants the whole show, great. But often times they just get swept up in the fire machine creating the show. My wish is for respectful and humble ceremonies. Everyone can come, process with the engines if they want… but the big shows are just that. A big show.
Always appreciate your feedback Judith. Hope you’re well.
Thanks, Bobbie. Good episode! I mostly agree with you….I think the big, showy ‘memorials’ are not only a waste of time and money; they are inappropriate and maybe even negative. Especially the whole ridiculous bagpiper/kilt deal….what the heck? I’ve been to more than my share of these, unfortunately.
Your episode was also timely. I had visitors from out of the area last week and took them to the Thirtymile Fire memorial. (I try to go every year summer, but had missed a year). It feels like an appropriate one; and was moving for me, as always.
Best wishes, Bobbie – keep doing what you do, well. Cheers – Jim
Always appreciate the feedback Jim. Thanks.